Let people love who they want to love. Let people be who they are.
I read something earlier and it broke my heart, I may never be able to fully relate to everyone in the world but there comes a certain period with pain where you feel completely alone and I know that all too well. I read a suicide letter from a teen who wasn’t even able to live out their teen years, and that’s a tragedy, people die everyday yes it happens but someone was depressed to the point where they felt there was nothing to live for and killed themselves, if that didn’t impact you try and read it again. There is a rather large discrepancy between generations and it’s harming these kids and it’s not fake, it’s not ‘just a phase’ because these kids are dying. I can only imagine how difficult it is to be a parent, I would have no idea how to have handled myself as a teenager let alone be a parent to any child with depression, but down the line your child is and forever will be your child. Their decisions are not made to ruin your hard work or to damage your appearance, they didn’t choose who they are attracted to to anger you, they didn’t choose what gender they identify with to embarrass you, it is simply who they are and they are your child.
If your daughter identifies herself as a lesbian, and dresses in a way that makes her feel comfortable with the person that she is, then that’s the way it should be. She shouldn’t come home for the holidays to you holding a dress with ribbons demanding her to ‘dress like a girl’, as people mature so do their brains, as family and friends we don’t have the choice to decide for them, but they are in our lives and we love them so we have the obligation to support them. Eventually that person is going to dread coming home, dread dressing in your pre-selected outfit and dread even speaking to you, no human wants to consistently feel uncomfortable especially in front of their family where they should feel at home. I would rather have a relationship with my child then to have them despise being in my presence, just to take a family photo, to take a photo where they would look at themselves and not even identify with who was in it.
Where does all this hate and ignorance come from? Previous generations? You mean the same previous generations that believed being a skin color predetermined your right to walk freely in your own neighborhood, to eat? to go to school? The same previous generations that were okay with one human being enslaved to another? Or is it the bible? People will lie, cheat, steal, look at celebrities’ wealth and fame and wish they were them, have sex well before marriage or with no intention to marry at all, sing songs in sync about murder, but two people who are the same gender are in love with each other and it’s ‘sick and wrong’? I don’t understand, it’s socially acceptable to actively break these commandments but if two people you don’t even know are gay it’s an ‘abomination’, it’s not even a commandment, besides, words in a very old book should not stop two people from loving each other.
I have friends of many different races, ages, sexuality and genders and I’ve learned that I can learn from every single one of them. I’ve opened my eyes and realized that every single one of those humans are just that, humans. They have the same right to love as you and I, and it scares me that at any point any of those friends may realize their sexuality or gender and be completely afraid of who they are, afraid to be themselves and may develop depression and consider something like suicide and this isn’t crazy, this could actually happen. Nobody knows the future, lottery winnings and betting would increase one hundred percent but all joking aside that is why it is more imperative to appreciate life and love who we are, however for some it is impossible when everyday they have to hide who they are in order to avoid being shunned, disowned, and in some cases in order to survive. Sometimes it’s not the action or the words, it’s the person. Love your families, it’s the one you got, please be kind to others, some people don’t have much to go back home to, they were using their escape and your interaction could be the only one they’ve had all week or it could be their last. Live and let live.
Happy New Years Everybody -Nerd Out